I know the question I asked seems strange!
It was once raised in our group and kept us talking for ages.
So I wanted to ask it here.
Thank you CB,Ron and Brother...your insights underlined what we thought.
That all we can do is try to avoid sin then pray for the grace to deal with any hardship that follows.
Doing this is surely Gods Will.
The quote given by Brother from St Pio is very helpful..
"Our Lord sends the crosses...we do not have to invent them."